One sunny fall afternoon I was sitting at a meeting with the other midwives in my practice. Our clinic is in the same building as the birth centre and partway through our meeting we watched a car enter the parking lot, at a possibly unsafe speed. It was one of the other midwives’ clients in labour. The midwife went up to assess and came back downstairs to rejoin the meeting, as this momma still had some labouring to do.
The midwife went upstairs periodically throughout our meeting and labour progressed quickly. When the momma was almost ready to push, the midwife’s phone rang – it was another one of her clients, a first time mum, in labour. She was having strong, frequent contractions and was already feeling pushy pressure!
Guess who was nominated to attend this second momma’s birth? Me! The brand new midwife. I was terrified, but also excited. I had met this client and her partner once before and felt that we had connected well, but I never imagined I would be the one coming to her in labour!
It was rush hour and (of course) this client lived at the other end of the city (they were planning a home birth). I gave them a call to let them know I was on my way and said a little prayer to the universe as I made my way to them. I finally arrived at their house and the door was answered by their wonderful doula.
I had a listen to baby (who sounded happy) and asked if the momma would be comfortable with having her cervix checked – she was fully dilated and the baby’s head was soooo low! I called my backup midwife right away and prayed she would make it for the birth.
I didn’t coach this momma to actively push because baby was doing well and I wanted to buy some time to set up my emergency equipment. With the quiet encouragement of her doula she continued to breath through her contractions.
The timing was perfect! I had just finished setting up when I heard her starting to grunt and bear down. I took a quick look and could already see baby’s head! My backup midwife walked in just in time welcome a little peanut of a baby boy. I brought him up to his momma’s chest and the next several minutes were spent watching the new little family get acquainted.
What a special birth for my first catch!
from a very special midwife called Avery
Do you have an empowering birth story that you would like to share? Encouraging positive discussion around birth is very important, it helps balance the wide held beliefs about birth that often leave mum’s to be fearing the day their babe will arrive.
For those of you who are not motivated by writing here are some quick questions that will help you share your story. You can send your stories to me through the Nella Inspired Facebook page in a private message or email firstname.lastname@example.org
Where did you decide to birth and why?
Hospital, home, midwife clinic etc.
What did you doing during your pregnancy to prepare for birth day? and what do you believe was he most beneficial?
Yoga, Chiropratics, Acupuncture, Hypno-birthing/calm birth classes etc.
Who attended your birth and do you feel they brought something special to the event?
Midwives, doula, partner, support person
Looking back is there anything you would change about preparation or birth day?
I wish I had strengthened my legs a little more hehe
Share a moment that you will never forget
How did your birth experience empower you?
Here is a brief run down of my experience with three different soft structure baby carriers. When buying carriers remember you can always search on eBay or gumtree for second hand options, I bought our Ergo 360 for much cheaper and it was only used twice. I have also resold the carriers I no longer use.
This is the first carrier I used and I certainly hold a soft spot for them. I started wearing Boston at about 12 months of age, then used it again with Ruby from a newborn till around three months.
- Light weight and breathable in hot weather
- Well suited to smaller framed people – easily adjusted
- Built in hood (so you always have it with you)
- Zipped section opens up to give you extra length; great for when baby is sleeping or as they grow taller ( I still carried Boston in our Manduca at 2.5 yrs).
- My favourite aspect is the built in newborn pouch, a little tricky at the beginning but much easier then long wraps when you have a toddler to chase.
- The hood could be bigger, I just felt like there was never enough coverage.
- My husband could never get comfortable with this carrier, it did not seem to fit his tall frame.
- The waist band and arm straps are not as comfortable as other carriers I have used (maybe a padding issue).
When Ruby hit three months of age she went through a stage of wanting to face outwards. At the time we were interstate and walking everywhere, so after a couple of days of her protesting the carrier and getting held facing outwards I got an Ergo 360. Super happy!
- Allows baby to face forward in an ergonomic position (still not recommended for extended periods)
- Both me and my husband found this carrier very comfortable. Which is quite awesome
considering I am 5’3″ and he is 6’2″
- Really easy to convert into different positions.
- Great inbuilt hood, that is easy to put on without help (even when they are on your back)
- Very comfortable waist strap and arm padding
- Because the carrier is convertible to front facing the trade off is a seat that is narrowerthen an original Ergo. I found that by the time Ruby hit ten months she was not being supported in the best position, and we stopped facing her forward around 7 months for the same reason.
When Ruby grew out of the Ergo 360 I went back to our Manduca only to realise it wasn’t quite as comfortable as I remembered. We had bought a Tula Toddler for Boston and were really happy, so we went ahead and invested in a Tula Baby too.
- Both my husband and I find the Tula carries very comfortable. The waist bands are supportive and the arm straps are super padded
- They come in a huge range of beautiful fabric designs that are constantly updated
- Tula’s seem to hold their value more then other carriers, this could be because there are only a limited amount sold of each print
- They have a nice wide seat, which means babies and toddlers will always have that great M position
- Come in two sizes Baby 7 to 20kg and Toddler 11 to 27kg. Keep in mind that Boston is only 15kg but needs a toddler size because of his height. As in, height matters just as much as weight.
- There is a pocket! amazing
- The baby/toddler seat of the carrier is not adjustable at all. It is one solid piece of fabric. So where ever it happens to come up your child’s back, that is where is is staying. Some carriers (including the Manduca and Ergo 360) have zip extensions or flaps that fold up or down. These give you a little more control on how your child is supported, sometimes they may want the arms in, or sometimes out. I was happy with the Tula Toddler size for Boston but a little disappointed that the baby size didn’t come very high up Ruby’s back (keep in mind she is still way too short to upgrade to a toddler size).
- The hood is quite small and detachable, I almost never have the hood with me when I need it. In fact I am not entirely sure where I have left them….or my keys for that matter.